James 4:1-3 NIV
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you [do] ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
The source of conflict is this:
Two things we must acknowledge:
- I am ________________________________________________.
- What ______________may not be what ______________________.
Things we must learn to say:
*Note: some materials taken from Andy Stanley’s Future Family series.
This Week’s Family Challenge
Families: Set aside about 20 minutes to go over this week’s challenge, Make sure that everyone in the family understands the objectives clearly.
Individuals: Take this challenge to your family of origin or with people at work. It really could apply just about anywhere!
The goal is to pause before conflict/confrontation to consider the key ideas presented this week. Ask yourself:
- What do I need to acknowledge is ‘my part’ in the conflict?
- What does God want in this situation?
Also, actively seek opportunities to use the four ‘things we must learn to say’ with each other. It may be helpful to post these phrases in places around the house to remind people of what they are.
Note: If you are ‘alling behind’in these family challenges, that’s okay. Just take them one step at a time. But please be deliberate to working hard at each one!